To be completely honest, I'm kind of over setting New Years resolutions. Often times they are unattainable goals that we already know we're not going to implement regularly. Sure we have a killer first few weeks, and then the motivation fades and we are back to scrolling for hours mindlessly instead of attending the 5 SoulCycle classes you wanted to go to each week.
SO, I've been thinking of ways that I can *actually* improve my life and totally win at goal setting.
You will need a pen & paper. Grab them now!
The first thing I want you to do is grab your materials and make a list of all the things you "should" do. At the top of the page write "I SHOULD..." and a bullet point list underneath.
Example: I SHOULD
• Exercise more
• Eat healthier
• Go to bed earlier
Now I want you to ERASE the word "should" from your vocabulary. It is self-deprecating and unnecessary because we love ourselves. Go through the list and ask yourself why you haven't already accomplished these things. Be honest with yourself. No judgment here, ok? I love you.
Make a new list, and at the top of the page write, "IF I REALLY WANTED TO I COULD..." And just like before, write down all the things you know you are completely capable of doing/achieving/being/having.
Example: IF I REALLY WANTED TO I COULD...
• Go for a long walk a few times per week.
• Eat a salad for lunch instead of a sandwich.
• Put my phone on airplane mode before going to bed.
Again, ask yourself why you haven't already done the things on this 2nd list. Your answers might be a little different now. "Because I'm not good enough." "Because I'm lazy." "Because I'm scared." No matter what your reason, please know all you need to change is the WILLINGNESS to .
This is what I've been practicing and it has helped me so much!
First of all, I decided that my overall goal every day is to be H A P P Y! And that makes everything more fun.
Now, on a new piece of paper I want you to break down your resolutions or goals into a few categories: DAILY, WEEKLY, MONTHLY, AS OFTEN AS NECESSARY.
Under the daily column, think of the things/tasks/steps you can take every. single. day that support you being your best self and really living your best life.
Here are some things I wrote down:
• Oil Pulling
• Dry Brushing
Under the weekly column, write down the things that you don't need to do every single day, but that are important to upkeep on a regular basis.
Here are some of my examples:
• Exercise 5 times/ week
• Take Bodhi on a 1 hour long walk
• Post regularly on my blog and youtube
Now think a little bit bigger. What are some things that you want to accomplish every month? It can be saving x amount of money, making x amount of meals at home, etc.
Here's what I wrote down for myself:
• Write and record guided meditations
• Host or partake in a women's or moon circle
For the last list you can throw in all those extra things that you want to include for yourself. Title it "As often as necessary" Maybe its a girls night, or a day trip, or getting a massage, or doing something out of your comfort zone.
Some of my goals are:
• Keep website updated
• Get a massage (Self care people!)
• Read more books / study!
As you move into the new year, I hope these exercises bring you some more clarity, as ease in moving forward. Writing lists has always been therapeutic for me. It helps me remember what I need/ want to do and SEE it in front of me. Sometimes I cross everything out, rip up the paper and throw it away. But mostly I use writing to clear and organize my mind.
It is not selfish, it is necessary. Take care of you, for you. Its very easy to focus on others and neglect ourselves. So each day, take time to care for you. For your amazing little body, and your beautiful heart.